Lessons from an unlikely source

There is a thing or two to be learned from those we consider the scum of the society. While their lifestyle may not be appropriate, we cannot totally rule them out as never do well. These are people who know what they want and go after with in a manner that is quite foreign to the upright man. They want and they get it because they apply the right attitude.


Ever wondered why the average man laments about ‘gold-diggers’ and yet these women keep popping up everywhere? Men and women alike consider them a nuisance, but yet fall for victim to their wiles. A gold-digger(which I’ll restrict to the female gender) has clear cut goals, top if which is to land a mega rich man. But does she just go about dreaming and painting pictures of this fairy tale man? No. She goes out and finds him. Everything she is becomes a magnet for men. She garbs herself in the cutest attires, borrows if she has to. She attends the most glamorous occasions, definitely gets an invite by hook or crook. She makes sure she’s noticed. Then she slowly spins her web until you are exactly where she wants you to be–wrapped around her fingers 🙂 A gold digger attracts exactly those who seek her. You want a beautiful trophy wife, you got her.

You want the good life, then you need to attach yourself to people who can get you where you want to be. But it isn’t enough to want it, you need to act it. If you want to land a connection with a rich bloke, you have to look rich too and get yourself to the spot where rich folks meet(whether by hook or crook) and garb yourself in a way that makes you look presentable to the people you want. Find out what they need and make yourself exactly that. A business tycoon is your ticket to that annual salary in 7figures that you want, but he wants a man with the brain capacity to move his business forward. Be that person.

Lesson: If you want something, you become what your target needs. Nothing goes for nothing.

The best robberies in history are those whom the perpetrators have never been caught. A good robber, the kind who knows his onions, doesn’t just barge into a house. He scopes, zones in on a target. He watches, gathers information. He plans, strategizes. Most importantly his timing is always perfect. Nothing is rushed because he knows the terrain like the back of his hand. He knows when to act and when to wait. He knows his ‘enemy’ and neutralizes their defences. He is the master planner. One who fails to plan, plans to fail. So goes the popular saying. You need to set clear cut goals and targets, and strategize on how to achieve them at all times. Know when to make a move and when to wait. Like the sons of Issachar, timing is always usually the key.

Lesson: Planning. Patience. Timing.


The best liars are those who never get caught in a lie, those who always have their story straight. Their secret? Anticipation, speculation. To catch a thief you need to think like a thief. To get away with a lie, you need to anticipate every possible angle of reasoning of your quarry. A good liar has a ready made answer for your questions and doubts. Most of all, he has a Plan B and C if you prove too tough a nut to crack. He never gets himself boxed into a corner, he leaves what I call ‘wriggling space’. That’s very cunning but effective. A good wriggling space gives you the flexibility necessary to change your approach (or point of attack/ defence if you wish) should things not go like you anticipated. What better way is there to obliterate your competition than by anticipating their actions? A dab of pessimism never hurts anyone. On the contrary it allows for proper preparation for any possible outcome. This way nothing catches you unaware. Think positive but always plan for contingencies.

Lesson: Speculate. Anticipate. Always be prepared.


A Con artist is possibly by far the most successful scum. He’s a hunter, a man versed in human nature and the ‘weakness’ that comes with it. He knows his prey–makes it his business to know exactly what they want, and he takes advantage of the underlying weakness. The human mind sees exactly what it hopes to see, not what’s  really there most times. The con artist knows this and takes advantage of it. He lures you into a false sense of security, it’s like singing a lullaby to a baby. Once he’s gained your trust, he begins to milk his reward 🙂 That’s the secret of every good lawyer–seeking out the underlying weakness in every system. They find the loopholes and they frame their counterattack from that vantage point.

 Lesson: Simply put: Know the system. Outsmart the system.


There are laws and ways to get what you want that applies to both good and bad. Knowledge is free, it’s what you choose to do with it that counts. No man is a total writeoff, from every being out there I believe there are lessons to learned. It could go from being how not to act, to how to act. Either way a lesson is learnt. A line from a popular Disney animation reads “If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you’ll learn thing you never knew you never knew”. I choose to walk those steps once in a while(mostly in my mind) and I learn new things everyday.

These people may be scums, but they are scums who succeed and you too can succeed.



9 thoughts on “Lessons from an unlikely source

  1. Lizzieebunoluwa September 25, 2014 / 3:08 pm

    *chuckles*…What a lesson or lessons in this case…pretty remarkable way to look at and make the best of life.
    Thank you for sharing.

    P.s; When I first read you, I thought you should have been a sociologist in degree seeing as you already are in person. Your persona is intriguing.


    • uju September 25, 2014 / 4:24 pm

      😀 Thank you for you kind words, Lizzie. I hope you come around more often.


  2. yemi August 10, 2014 / 8:01 pm

    it is but also interesting. the down side is you get bored with people quickly or if uncontrolled too judgemental..cos you wud be able to tell so many things..lols..

    part of the good side is you get to know who catches your fancy especially during interviews and focus more on them..

    do watch this series “lie to me”.


  3. yemi August 8, 2014 / 2:40 pm

    You should add know your micro-expressions to the “lesson” part of “liars”.


    • uju August 10, 2014 / 1:29 pm

      Another GOT lesson eh ;D A good liar must be the master of his face 🙂

      Thank you Yemi


      • yemi August 10, 2014 / 5:00 pm

        nah not GOT..with micro-expressions no one can hide the truth just that it’s damn too “occupying” or a job itself being good @ it. learning the art tho..lols..


      • uju August 10, 2014 / 6:03 pm

        Ok. I read something similar in the GOT book so I assumed you also did.

        That’s a hell of a job though


  4. ujuh February 9, 2014 / 10:40 pm

    Thanks! I’ll check it out.


  5. fruus February 9, 2014 / 10:26 pm

    Good read! you should post this on writement.com


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