Human emotions are funny. Well funny is a good way to describe it because any other thing is just inadequate. I remember a story about a man who opened a facebook account and used that account to flirt with his wife. He continued with it until his wife fell in love with that alternate person and was even thinking of leaving her husband for the handle. This got me thinking: was the wife really wrong or was there more to this than we see on the surface?
Now I once likened falling in love to Boolean algebras and Truth tables. Of course the inputs of anything will definitely determine the output and like Boolean algebra, most times, the input describe and give a definite answer on what our emotions will be towards the person with the inputs.
Just because a statement is true does not mean it is a fact, but what makes a statement true? It is the inputs. If a woman loves a man who is kind, listens to her and is always there for her, she is likely to fall in love with any man who shows such attributes; if the same woman also love men with with nice voices it is an addition.
Now if a woman loves men that are kind and caring, and while dating her husband he showed these attributes (lets call them inputs) the output might be the woman falling in love because he has fulfilled the conditions for the output to be love. So she loves him.
Imagine again if that same man stops being kind, although he is caring. He is the same man, she is the same woman but the inputs have changed. He has altered the inputs and this becomes a problem as the output might not be love anymore. She might not love him as before. She might not be as confident in him as before. She might find him inadequate which means “altered output”.
Human emotions is like the “AND” and “OR” gates of a Boolean expression. While the AND gate says the output is positive if and only if the inputs are positive, the OR gate says the output is positive if at least one input is positive. In essence, the AND gate is like resistors in series and OR gate, resistors in parallel.
For none programing or science folks, if a person finds caring as a must in someone she will love, it will be implausible for her to love someone who is not caring. That input is missing as it is an “AND” expression. It must be present for her to love you.
So can we really blame the woman who fell in love with her husband’s alternate account?
He presented all the inputs she needed to fall in love. The expression was complete and total. He probably showed her all the qualities of the man her husband was when she fell for him and hence the result was Love. If he had not showed the attributes that triggered her emotions, it possibly won’t happen.
Now some people argue that women love the “Bad guys” but they forget that bad is relative. Sometimes, there is something these bad guys have that triggers the love output. A woman who love guys who can make her laugh and dance might be willing to endure the fact that he is a drunk and a spend thrift.
These attributes to her is just part of the “OR” gate expression. To her, it does not really matter as long as he has the positive attributes, the output will be love.
Does this explain why some women stick with their irresponsible spouses? Maybe. The man might be a sick person to the outside world but there is a part of him that just trigger those emotions in the spouse and because most humans can’t fight love (it is a factor of want and need), they fall hopelessly and fail to see the ills as a reason to leave him.
It is all Boolean algebra.
It is about dividing each attribute into where they should be for each person and the result will come naturally since the heart will love who the heart will love. Hell the heart loves even against our will.
Now on to what I said about how a statement can be true and not be a fact.
A man can love a woman because of some attributes (inputs). So the truth is that he is in love with her. But is it a fact? At that moment, it is true since the inputs are unchanged but immediately a new variable is added ie. the woman nags, it throws the dynamics into a new light and that true statement “He loves her” becomes untrue. Then we start wondering what went wrong without wanting to check the inputs.
Facts don’t change, truths do because truths are present realities based on a series of events. If the series of events change, the results change.
Fact is that Acid+Base= Salt+Water because it is true for every Acid and Base input no matter the time or date, the output will be salt and water.
But “Eze Loves Tolu” is not always true because in 5 months the dynamics might change, and although it is the same Eze and the same Tolu, love might not be the output.
Mynd is a smarty pants and a well known out-of-the-box thinker amongst his friends. He broods as often as he writes poems and weaves enticing stories. Never mind he is a mathematical genius, this fella can make you wonder how he got all artsy.
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