the generation of gender equality

Amen to this. It’s a strange world of misunderstandings we live in, but this woman here sure breaks down this biological need men and women carry around.

See, there's this thing called biology...

There sure are some smart women in the world. One blogger posted these poignant words, “We are the generation of gender equality, and we can’t stop hurting each other because we have no sense of how to get along.”  A-yep.

Men and women have never had an easy time of it. Relationships have always been about angst and stress and trying to figure out how to get along, but we have done a grave disservice to the cause of love.

When our culture decided to completely rewrite the biological narrative, I doubt anybody understood the implications, the cause and effect that would snowball down the hill and impact every area of our society. But never mind the decline of Western Civilization, today I just want to bemoan some the harm that’s been passed down to the generation of gender equality, myself included.

It’s really hard to have a relationship…

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9 thoughts on “the generation of gender equality

  1. yemi December 8, 2014 / 2:27 pm

    yes ma’am..

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    • yemi December 21, 2014 / 2:30 pm

      compliments of the season Uju..
      hope to get christmas present from you o..as the law states ‘the first person to ask for christmas gift before christmas must surely get his present..#winks..

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      • uju December 22, 2014 / 11:21 am

        Lol wait for it 😀

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  2. Kambili M.A Chimalu November 25, 2014 / 1:39 am

    Amen to this? What part of it are we “Amening” to exactly?
    She says, “Feminism teaches women to never respect men, ever. Don’t pour honor into men, always keep yourself in a defensive stance, making it clear you don’t really need them. Naturally feminism then comes along and teaches men the exact opposite, women don’t need you, so don’t even think about presenting yourself as having any worth beyond constantly validating women’s independence and ability to survive without you.”

    The only thing I get from this is that the writer obviously has no deep understanding of what feminism stands for or she has already bought into the misconception that has been heaped on feminism. This article ignores the very truth and history of why feminism even came about. Feminism began as a response to society’s (men’s) view of women as properties and entities incapable of rationale thought/capabilities. Feminism does not teach women not to respect men. Feminism teaches both men and women (and every gender in-between) the necessity of recognizing, respecting, and honoring each other’s humanity. Also, no society actually encourages divorce, but different societies are increasingly creating environments that make is safe for women to exit bad marriages. For instance, in Nigeria, I know a lot of women that should leave their marriages as a result of abuse, but our society frowns on that. If, as a feminist, I look out for the wellbeing of my fellow woman, would that mean that I am encouraging divorce?

    Of course, there are radicals in every movement, but the vocal few should not be the definition of a movement that has saved the lives of countless women. I love men. I respect men. I understand that we are biologically programmed to perform different tasks. That being said, I want men to love me. I want men to respect me and not look down on me as a result of my gender. That’s all we can ask for.

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    • uju November 25, 2014 / 8:24 am

      How strange. I thought of you today when I read this again, and here you are 🙂

      If you read my introductory lines again, you’d see what I was Amen-ing to: the misunderstandings surrounding our biological needs.

      I know when people read things they pick whatever resonates most with them and address it. That was it for me; apparently it was something else for you.
      I’d suggest you went tot he author’s blog to raise your objections. I’m sure she has her reasons for writing them, and will be in a better position to address your misgivings.

      P.S If the few vocal ones are painting a distorted picture of the true meaning of a movement, why aren’t the majority who are apparently practicing the true meaning of feminism doing anything about it?
      Somehow this has been turned into a war of sort, and it doesn’t bode well for us. I’m neither feminist nor anti-feminist. I’m a woman who appreciates the efforts made in the past by those who chose to fight a crude system. But sometimes even warriors have to go back to their drawing board so they don’t lose sight of what is being fought for.

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    • yemi December 7, 2014 / 4:32 pm

      @kambili you don’t have to be a feminist for men to love, respect and not look down on you.

      the truth is you can be a feminist and and still face the same scenario you are fighting against as a feminist..

      one can very much have all of the love and respect you crave for by the way you live your life without having a “tag” to describe your actions and the attitude of men..

      when one comes out as a feminist the person automatically have to live by certain codes or standard set up for the said “tag” and also brings about those who would be in opposition to at..

      as @uju said “But sometimes even warriors have to go back to their drawing board so they don’t lose sight of what is being fought for” instead of trying to revise or revisit the reason for the “tag” and coming out with other less confronting approach like (teaching your male child how to treat the female gender) they tend to react bringing about the emergence of the vocal ones as you called them..

      nb:
      I ain’t for or against feminism, am just a silent observer and pardon my use for the word “tag” it’s all just my opinion I tried to summarise…

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      • uju December 8, 2014 / 10:47 am

        It’s a nice perspective you bring Yemi. I’ve realized people are touchy about feminism because of the few vocal ones Kambili spoke about. It’s like having someone rip your favorite toy out of your hands.

        I’ve tried addressing the misgivings both genders face in my next post. You should read it when you find the time, and share your angle 🙂

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    • uju November 24, 2014 / 4:43 pm

      Great Post. You’re welcome 🙂

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